Picking a day to ask
Two dates in a marriage get chosen on purpose. This is the first one.
What the old rules actually object to
Most of what makes a day wrong for asking is not about the two of you — it is the sky that day, and it is the same sky for everyone. Four things do most of the damage:
- Venus retrograde. The one span the old rules will not marry anyone in, and the same objection carries to asking. It runs about six weeks every eighteen months.
- A waning Moon. The oldest rule in the craft wants a growing one for anything you intend to last.
- The Moon between signs. The hours after its last aspect and before it changes sign — the old name for it is void of course, and nothing quite lands in it.
- The days around an eclipse. Not unlucky. Loud, and hard to keep private.
Any calendar will tell you the moon phase. The other three take a scan.
Where your two charts come in
The sky narrows the year. Your two birth charts decide which of the days it leaves are actually yours — and that is the part no general calendar can do, because it needs both birth dates.
MOON scans a year that way and sorts it: the days that work for both of you, the days that work for one, and the days to move off. That reader is built and tuned for the wedding day, not for the proposal — the two are weighted differently, and we would rather say so than pretend one reading answers both.
What it does answer: which days in the year the sky and your two charts both leave open. For most people the proposal sits inside that same window.
Two birth dates. No birth time, no birthplace, no signup.